Feeling Powerless

   This is the feeling to avoid - the feeling that creates the most fear, anger, and insecurity in people. Even children and animals react to feelings of being lost.... All adults need to feel useful and have a sense of direction in their life. They need to know how their lives make a difference. If they don't know this, it will cause some damage.
   I've known people who over-compensated for lack of control by being obsessively-compulsively organized, others who became neurotic, some who became controlling or angry, or some who gave up and went through life without accomplishing anything.
   Teens learning to be adults, adults in difficult stages of life (job changes,  kids moving on, divorces, growing old, sickness) These stages can leave one suddenly powerless. People need to be reminded how they are important, or fear, anger or paralysis can hurt even more.